Hi mizz yella
This is Mischelle. I have been divorced for almost 19 years. I have 3 daughters. My oldest was 8 when we divorced. I only had 2 kids when I divorced. My third child is another story. I say we because their father no longer wanted to have anything to do with us as a whole. My oldest is now 27 with her own family. My youngest at the time is 23 with two kids of her own. They both are out of the house. During these years of raising my children alone, I gave them everything they needed and when I could, what they wanted. They never participated in any sports or activities at school. But they had what they needed at home. I haven't received food stamps in over 10 years because I bought a dependable car. I never received a welfare check because they say I made too much money. I haven't had any real relationships since I was divorced. My children didn't want me to even now. No man has ever given me money to pay any bills. My third child's father, it was his idea to have a child. While I was pregnant, he withdrew and by the time she was 2 weeks old, I put him out because he wasn't coming home after work or weekends... he was already gone. Now i'm raising her on my own. My ex-husband, now in prison owes me more than 104 thousand dollars in child support and my youngest daughter's father owes me about 74 thousand, money I will never get. In spite of this, I own my home, and a 2005 honda accord. It's not the fanciest, but it's mine. I give total credit to My God for my accomplishments. There have been times when I didn't know what I was going to do. God is always on time. My children are good kids. Now that they have children of their own, they understand why things were the way they were and because of the way they were raised, they are responsible parents. My 15 year old is even cost conscious. They all have told me, "I may not get what I want when I ask for it, but Mom always get what we ask for. Oh, we have 2 computers, playstation 2, 4 televisions, gameboy advance, NintendoDS, all on my income. As long as you are responsible and do the right thing, you will make it. I always bought clearance merchandise. Just be patient in all your purchases. Oh, I make less than twelve dollars an hour and everything in my house is paid for. I don't do credit cards; I never have. I do layaway and clearance. Be patient and keep your head up. As long as you depend on you and God, and no one else, you can do it. I did go back to school and get an associates degree in Computer Info Processing and now have a job in my field. I left Wal-Mart 8 months ago after 14 years. I like my job now. I found things easier being single. You have one less child to care for. You can still live, It's up to you how you live.
